Re: [Nicholas1990] BASE Jumping, it's a martial art!
I will pass on to you two words that have been said to me repeatedly over the years: "grow up".
Makes me feel like a real hypocrite saying that to *anyone*. On the other hand, I think anyone who hears those words from *me* has reason to take a moment and think about it. You have just been advised to grow up by someone who is socially retarded.
Ok, so I'm a hypocrite, but some of the best advice comes from those who have failed miserably and learned from it.
The things that I find most striking about what I have seen from you so far are:
1. I get the sense that you figure that it's all about you.
2. Although you are willing to air your dirty laundry and say you screwed up, you seem to be remorseless.
First impressions are often wrong, but that's my first impression, so I'll go with it.
If the above *does* describe your general attitude, I can tell you from experience that in the long term it can make you very lonely. It does not work because you end up alienating the people around you because if they hang around long enough, you will shit on them sooner or later. Not necessarily intentionally, but by not considering the impact your words and actions have on others.
I'm not saying it's a good idea to run your life based on others' reactions--it's not--but if you are a socail outcast, it just might be wise to look at it as a wakeup call.
I don't have a huge number of close friends, but the few that I have are the kind who would help me move a body. If you want *have* friends like that, you've got to *be* a friend like that.
Just guessing here, but I'm thinking you are not.
There is no shortage of really awesome people in the BASE community--extreme acitivities seem to attract the best and the worst that society has to offer. Which side of the fence do you want to be on? What kind of people do you want around you when you are in deep shit?
Please think about that.
Sorry if this has turned into a lecture. I didn't mean it to be one. Just passing along some lessons learned in case you are interested in getting along better with others.
I hope you stick around and keep posting.
Walt